Red Flags of Abuse

Yelling

Swearing

Put downs and name-calling

Making fun of the other person

Insulting/mistreating your family or children

Humiliating you in public or in front of friends/family

Criticizing or finding fault in your behavior, feelings or ideas

Blaming you for problems in his/her life

Failing to take your concerns, feelings or needs seriously

Isolating you from your family/friends

Making jealous accusations

 Making you account for where and how you spend your time

Verbally attacking your friends

Putting down your goals

Controlling conversations

Being manipulative

Lying

Withholding important information

Deciding what's important

Cheating on you

Repeatedly not following through on promises

Being undependable

Blaming you for the violence

Pressuring you to forget or “get over” abusive incidents

Acting like your father

Setting rules for you

Giving you an allowance

Telling you what you can and cannot do

Controlling the money in the house

Telling you what you can or cannot wear out of the house

Withholding the money, car or other financial resources